Your life is a roll-playing game (RPG). Of course, RPGs are modelled after the real world, and use concepts from it, not the other way around. But since they are a model, their concepts are simpler than real life, making it easier to understand the mechanics from an outside perspective.
You are the player character. You can only influence how you behave, how your player character acts. Everything and everyone else is environment or events. You have no influence on anything else than your controls. You might do every stupid fetch quest for the king in order to get admitted to the kings guard or whatever, but then the king decides differently. These are things that you don't have under control.
You can skill in different skills.
Some are primary stats, and some are secondary or even tertiary stats.
| Primary Stat | Increased by |
|---|---|
| Strength |
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| Endurance |
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| Intelligence |
Difficult to increase, but there are some tricks.
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| Knowledge |
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| Charisma |
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| Self-Esteem |
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| Primary Stat | Secondary Stat |
|---|---|
| Knowledge |
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Decide on the person that you want to be. What skills and traits does he have?
Don't always live your life from the first-person perspective, but also look at yourself from the outside. Like you are controlling your player character, which is actually your self. Do you want that your player character sits in front of the television for three hours now? Or should your player character do something to advance himself? Advance his skills and traits. Or collect money or items that will help him in further tasks.
Should your player character sit in front of his computer and play video games? While his Strength, Endurance primary stats diminish? Or should he advance in the vast, high-definition, high-detail game world that is called the Real World?